Emotions are not bad, Emotionalism is!

Emotions are not bad, Emotionalism is!

Once I attended a class conducted by Chinmaya Mission and this is what I
learnt in that one session.

Emotional Transformation is the ability to monitor one’s own and other
peoples’ emotions to guide one’s thinking & actions. With this comes
the feeling of PEACE. Let’s describe this wonderful word and be at
peace:

P in Peace stands for Pause: When you experience an outburst of
emotions, take a deep breath and give yourself a pause. A traffic
signal states: stop, look and go; likewise Pause means stop, think and
then respond. Give a pause to whatever feeling is about to burst and
then go ahead. You will never ever go wrong and will never experience
guilt.

E stands for Emotional management: Never ever assume. Clarify the fact
and then come to a conclusion. You should be able to take
responsibility of your own emotion. Don’t blame others for your
outburst. Allow your system for accepting the change that is going to
happen. The various emotions are: love, jealousy, anger, fear etc. In
the first instance, you have to love yourself and your own company. If
you can’t love yourself, who else will? Learn to accept a person. Then
you’ll drive away the feeling of jealousy. It is quite natural for
somebody to have a better dress or a more beautiful home. But accept
the facts and the person. Jealousy will disappear. Anger in
mathematical terms is equal to Expectations*Denial. Greater the
expectation, greater the anger. Anger never lets you grow. When a
person experiences negative emotions, he finds himself in a hot soup
and ultimately perishes. So it is very important to deal with all
these negativities. To do so, increase your acceptance and forgiveness
levels, reduce insistence, invoke empathy, learn to laugh at yourself
and lastly, let your anger be issue based and not person based.

A is for Appreciation: Understand your worth, value your life and
appreciate your blessings. Never fail to appreciate someone who cares
for you.

C is for Care: Love expressed in action is care. If you love someone,
show it by your words, by your actions, by whatever means but please
show. Love isn’t care till it takes the form of some action.

E is for Evolve: Don’t revolve around things, evolve as a person. Be a
man to whom world looks upto! Be a man of substance. Don’t behave like
a sponge (who absorbs everything) or like a mirror who just reflects.
Be a crystal that shines and evolves.

Always remember, an emotionally transformed person:

• Operates from happiness
• Channelizes his negative emotions in a positive way.
• Faces challenges that life throws
• Is harmonious in relationships.