25 years of love and togetherness!

 

 

I love our marriage. The way it has been, the way we have grown, the way we have supported each other makes me fall in love with Neeraj, with our marriage over and over again. I know you all must be thinking what is the big deal about it…..everybody does it, and I say I know everyone does, but I love this feeling. Today my heart is bursting with joy, love and pride because we have kept the promise we made 25 years ago. Whatever the situations prevailed, we stood together and faced them.

The type of girl I was, I always used to remain in a fantasy land dreaming of a  handsome, charming boy who’ll dot me, care for me and all that stuff. And God did answer my prayers. Many a times, I have witnessed, He does! My grandma always used to tell my mom not to worry about me. A prince, on his horse will come and in a wink, will take me away. And believe me that only happened.

The first 2 years were spent knowing more of each other, eating out, travelling and later on he used to feed me breakfast with his hands coz I was quite unwell when my pregnancy started. My insatiable sweet desires were fondly taken care of by him!  And soon our first born arrived…darling Aditya, who’s a perfect blend of eastern and western culture. He used to amuse us in so many ways. Climbing the walls easily, soiling his half pants, hiding in spots you could not even imagine and what not! But from a naughty brat he transformed into an adult whom we look up to with pride. Simple yet classy, man of few words like his dad, sincere, disciplined and a highly tech savvy boy! Gita chanting comes to him with utmost ease, poise and intensity. Staying 12 years apart due to his education, lockdown came as a big blessing as we could see him nurture all the more.

In college days, I was too much into reading the horoscope journals by Linda Goodman where she used to write…normally Virgo boys don’t like to marry; but once they do, they prove to be the best husband and father. I can vouch for that! Neeraj taught his children the basic hygiene manners- which mattered in day to day affairs. Getting them ready for school was his duty while I just packed their Tiffin. During our holidays, he used to feed them & I was the one enjoying nature & shopping.

After that, God trusting our love gave us a child ~with some special needs ~with whom initially we struggled- then we learnt how to manage things. Neeraj motivated me to come out of the nutshell which I had sunk into. 2 months, when I stayed in Delhi for Vanshi’s treatment, I realized the importance of our relationship all the more.  That time our family’s support was our biggest strength. It’s true, your family’s presence and support does not let your confidence dwindle even for a minute. Aditya’s love towards her makes me feel all the more blessed! He dotes her like crazy!

In our marriage, for me, Neeraj’s smile was sunrise, his laughter was like my rainbow & his sadness was like a thunderstorm. He read me better than I read myself. He loved me more than I loved myself. Apart of being my favorite myself, I became his favorite too!

After a roller-coaster ride for many years, Dhruv came into our life. My little one, the completely focused and immensely hard-working boy who creates magic with his fingers on his Rubik’s cube, who’s workout routine will make anyone go gaga over him and the boy who’s a replica of his grandfather in terms of needs and desires. God bless my chhotu!

Coming to our married life, the work increased….dreams of shifting started taking place. In short, life had started settling then. I have seen Neeraj grow from a young, aggressive man; although he was always very caring; to a strong, committed man who’s full of love and tolerance.

Tabling made us grow fonder of each other. We discussed, shared and executed our plans. In short, whatever was the organization; we worked hand in hand giving each other the much needed strength and motivation! We followed our dreams and fulfilled them. He always made me feel that I am the most beautiful woman in this world and that feeling made me feel chirpier and blooming all the more!

Lockdown got us closer as work just flew without any specific roles. Attending ailing parents or house hold chores…..it just happened.

I must say life is too short not to love him whole-heartedly, cherish every moment and appreciate everything he does. Although he’s not fulfilled his 100 day challenge of yoga he took with me, still he’s the alarm that wakes me up every day; he’s the bed time melody that helps me sleep peacefully and he’s the therapist who knows how to spoil me and handle after spoiling me!

I wish our next years be like a glass of champagne with bubbles of joy, happiness & awesomeness. Happy Anniversary Jaan!

Preeti!